We were having a slow night at work a week or so ago and this guy at work (we'll call him J) was telling me how he was thinking of adopting his girlfriends daughter who is 13. I thought wow thats a big step and so sweet for him to care so much about her. A asked if she didnt have a Dad, and he said well its a long story but basically his girlfriend had been fooling around with a married man way back then and got pregnant. The father never acknowledged the baby, and didnt even pay child support. I thought hey well that will definitely make it easier to adopt the girl. Then he went into the long story somewhat and gave me a short version of it. I will try to make it even shorter here. Basically when his girlfriend gave birth she had been living with her parents, and she went into a coma for 8 months. They don't know why she was just in a coma. During that time the parents took care of the baby (not great evidently), and also decided to take care of about $30,000 she had in the bank to pay off all their bills. Which to me is a shit thing to do, but this guy said "Hey at least they used it to pay off bills and not blow it". That still sits ill with me though. So then he went on to tell me how shitty her parents are - she continued to support them and help pay their bills and yet they barely acknowledge her as their daughter. Then we talked about why he wanted to adopt this woman's daughter - did he plan on marrying her and he wanted them to be one big happy family? He dropped the bomb and told me that she is dying from Cancer. She is 31, she had breast cancer and it has spread throughout her body and she only has a couple of months to live. She can't go to her grandparents and there is no other family for her to go to so that's why they have been talking about him adopting her. I thought how sad - this woman has been through so much and I truly felt sorry for her. I had this family and the details of J's story on my mind for a couple of days - and with so much thought my mind seemed to turn it all around. J has known this girl for 5 months. How does he know all this is true? I mean this woman who was rich all these years is now living with him with no money to support herself, she has a daughter who she had with a man who was married yet never bothered to take him in for child support, now she is dying with a couple months to live yet she looks and acts perfectly fine and even goes out to the bars drinking with him all the time. So 5 mos before she is supposed to die she meets a man, moves in with him, lets him pay all the bills, even talks to him about adopting her daughter? I dont know something just isn't jiving with me on all that. And what's that saying about me? First I feel compassion for someone then try to bust the story down because something just sounds fishy. For his sake I sure hope the reality has me very wrong.
Sunday morning I was getting off my mid-shift and this talk show was on the radio. What makes this story unusual is I can't stand listening to talk shows, especially on Sunday mornings ;-) So for me to be listening is a miracle in itself - but I guess something kept me hanging on to listen. Don Piper, a minister from Texas was on talking about a book he wrote called "90 Minutes in Heaven" or something along those lines and he went on to tell about the book. He died in a car crash a few years ago - someone from a correctional facility was driving a truck and didn't really know how to drive. He wound up driving over top of this man's vehicle. He was pronounced dead by 4 paramedic units and after at almost 90 minutes he came back to life on his own. No brain damage, only the damage from the accident. There was alot to the story, and I gotta say after hearing him I was seriously amazed to hear his account of it. I might have to look around for his book.Help Jacqui
Jacqueline Saburido was taking a break from college and industrial engineering classes when she came to the United States from Venezuela to study English. A drunk driving crash changed her life completely. 
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On the first story, I have to somewhat side with you thinking that the guy is a sucker. For his sake I hope that I am wrong.
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